a. Glare at him; avoid him altogether; or get angry — and let him know how you feel.
b. Don't get upset; you simply ask him if he wants to talk about it.
2. You and your live-in love have been watching an extremely depressing segment on the evening news. You:
a. Silently watch.
b. Argue over each other's interpretation of events.
c. Cuddle and talk about what you saw.
d. Skirt your partner's attempts to talk about the tragedy you're watching.
3. Your husband was supposed to meet you at your favorite restaurant at 7 p.m. sharp. It's 7:20 and he's not there. You:
a. Figure that there has to be a good reason for the delay and wait for him to give you a ring on your cell phone.
b. Get upset and worry that something is wrong, such as he's hurt or with another woman.
c. Get upset and worry but don't jump to extremes. You start trying to track him down.
d. Leave a curt message on his voicemail and depart.
4. After a particularly bad visit with the accountant, you realize you owe more taxes than you had thought — or can afford. How do you react?
a. One of you blames the other — or you both blame each other — for this financial snafu.
b. One of you suggests a major lifestyle overhaul.
c. You freak out and immediately ask your family for a loan — without telling your husband of the screwup.
d. You both take the time to figure out how you got into this fiscal pickle, what it will take to correct it and how best to avoid something similar in the future.
5. Your roommate from college is extremely ill and there's a chance she'll die. You:
a. Don't share this with your partner. She's your friend; it's your grief. He probably wouldn't understand anyway.
b. Mention the situation abruptly and hit him with the full force of your sadness.
c. Feel at ease asking for his comfort; he knows how much she means to you.
d. Tell your mate bits and pieces but save most of your grief and venting for another friend.
6. When you feel your boyfriend has really hurt or betrayed you, you:
a. Tell him specifically why you're angry and, if necessary, suggest that the two of you go to couples counseling.
7. If you thought your partner had been unfaithful, you would:
a. Leave, pure and simple.
b. Find out what happened; then decide whether you're going to leave.
c. Find out what happened and try to determine what went wrong.
d. Use it as a manipulation tool.